Cancer/writing Journal #103

I had my PSA checked again today.  Again, it was too low to be detectable.

I have joined a cancer support group that meets twice a month.  It is for those who have survived cancer for quite a while--we call ourselves long haulers.  It's been three years for me which qualifies me as a long hauler but I'm the shortest hauler there.  5-6 of us sit around in a circle.  The talk about our cases, other's cases, how kids have handled the news (it grows them up fast) insurance complications etc.  There is plenty to talk about.  Even though my case is the most trouble-free there, I do have things to say.  Universals that resonate for all.  I am happy to participate in my community, albeit, one that is a secondary part of my life.

One of the members advised that we listen to "It's Okay" by Nightbirde.  The song is on YouTube.  A live performance is there  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU3Avwch3gw but also a recording with the lyrics scrolling.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhGlb1E-_8I    The writer and singer died of cancer in February, 2022 at age 31.  The song written and sung not very long before her death.  Break your heart.  Brave, upbeat as best she can but still a real wrestle with the real thing, all kind of oblique.  Trying so hard to be honest.  


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